“Never compliment her without a qualification,” he writes.
“Let her know what you want in a woman and make her explain why she fits those criteria.” “I’m not a psychologist or self-proclaimed expert in the multiple facets of human psychology,” Valdez told Quartz in a phone call.
At first, my trainer encouraged me to get creative with my replies, but by the third week, I was still getting back extensive rewrites.My most frequent mistake was asking career-oriented questions, which were deemed too difficult for some women to answer.Tinder alone produces more than 12 million matches a day, and if you’re a heterosexual American, you now have a one in three chance of meeting your future husband or wife online.But as e-romance hits an all-time high, our daily dose of rejection, harassment, and heartbreak creeps upward, too., and are loaded with his personal insights into the primal female brain. “There’s no question about it,” reads one chapter, “women want to date the alpha male.
They are naturally drawn to the ‘leader of the pack.’” Valdez elaborates later in the manual: “The alpha male is the .” But how do you present yourself as an Alpha?“She seems more simple,” my trainer would write in response.“Let’s try a different approach.” My meaningful questions would disappear from our shared Google Doc, replaced by simpler, condescending small talk.Before Tinder normalized “DTF” (“Down To Fuck”) as an opening salute, Valdez would send copy-and-pasted pick-up lines to dozens of women a day and track their effectiveness on spreadsheets.“Online dating is a numbers game,” he would write in the Vi DA training manual years later.“Rule 1: Don’t make her think too hard,” the manual says.