"I remember being 19 in England with a pack of guys just awkwardly standing together drinking beer and waiting for something to happen," Elman said.
The directness with which some American women approach relationships can be refreshing, as well as ego-boosting: "American women will probably pay men a lot more attention than English women, so for English guys, it's great.
The night I met George, the epitome of a charming Englishman, I was immediately drawn to him. After a long night out wandering the city with George, he put me into a cab. It hadn't even crossed my mind, but after the aloof coolness of the hipsters who populated my alma mater, Englishmen—with their jokes and their endearing awkwardness and their humor—were a welcome change.
"Most British men are terrified of rejection," said Jean Smith, a cultural anthropologist living in London.
The American (who is married to an Englishman, of course) conducted a study comparing the flirting behaviors of New Yorkers and Londoners and concluded that of the four demographics (English men, English women, American women, and American men), English men are, by far, the most afraid of rejection.
How does a girl from Texas end up with a tendency to go after English guys? Three years and four English boyfriends later, I was left wondering the same thing.
In my defense, I'd say Gwyneth Paltrow, who recently announced her separation from Chris Martin—who, in turn, blamed the breakup on his own lack of enthusiasm for life—would probably understand the initial attraction.
Native Londoner Christina, 35, just moved back to England after spending the last eight years living in New York. "If I was joking, they tended to take offense or find me peculiar," Christina said. The truth is that after two years, I stopped noticing his accent, which was fine, because, ultimately (and perhaps for the first time), I fell in love with the man, not "the Englishman." I still do love the way he says "cheeky," though. She and her friend Rachel wrote an epistolary memoir about their post-college years living in Beijing and Paris (and dating Englishmen).
One of the reasons she moved back was because she couldn't see herself settling down with an American guy. Personality played a factor for American Jeff, who lived in the UK for two years, as well: "I just don't think American bro culture translates very well to English women.
As would Emma Stone (who is dating Brit Andrew Garfield).
Or how about Jennifer Lawrence (and her Englishman Nicholas Hoult)?
Not to mention Gwen Stefani (and her husband, Londoner Gavin Rossdale).
In my (albeit limited) experience, it seems like American women and English men often find romance, yet American men and English women make for unlikely couples.
I am in my first month of membership with Parship, but I have tried several other online dating sites previously.