As you begin dating, it is important that you each continue pursuing your individual relationships with God. Prayer is meant to be deeply intimate, baring your heart and your emotions before God.
Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in establishing reasonable, healthy, God-honoring emotional boundaries that will help protect both you and your special someone.
Then actually put them in writing and have a friend hold you accountable to them.
They are lovingly arranged in chronological order and tucked away in a shoebox in our storage shed.
Not long ago, I pulled out the shoebox and reread each letter, experiencing all over again the excitement of a new relationship, the uncertainty of reciprocated feelings and the hesitancy to let my heart run away with me.
I was 21 years old when I drove from Texas to Colorado with my friend Christie to attend the wedding of a friend from Japan. Unbeknownst to me that very evening my future husband sat across the dinner table from me.
At the reception we discovered with delight that the bride’s mother had arranged to seat all the single people at the same dinner table so we could “mingle.” “Who knows what might happen? It wasn’t long before we began a long-distance courtship, got engaged, and then married.Our wedding took place just 14 months from the day we met, and that was almost 30 years, three kids, two dogs and three mortgages ago.I still have every precious card and letter we wrote to one another during that time.Protect the deepest, most intimate parts of who you are both emotionally and spiritually.“Be real, be genuine, and be honest,” adds Felita, “but never without the anchor of boundaries and the weight of wisdom.” It’s normal to want to spend more and more time with someone you enjoy.I had experienced heartbreak before, and I certainly didn’t want to experience that again.