I have a drinking problem but it is not a problem I feel any need to resolve and I am drawn to men who are also drinkers like me.
I can have a glass of wine in the morning and drink until I pass out in the afternoon and wake up when my lover comes home and go to the pub with him and start drinking again.
My husband can’t tolerate that behaviour which is why I moved in with my current lover.
And, maybe there’s a reason you never want to be at home where he is lately? ) I have so many questions, like, do you hang out, ever? What does “normal” or “the desired outcome” for your marriage look like to y’all? Is there a compelling reason to stay married to him, beyond say, the legalities or force of habit?Have you had a “Hey, this isn’t really working” conversation before now? Would you have described yourself as “happily married” before you saw them together? Whatever the answers are, taking your mom on a date to your favorite local moving her shit into your house (which is still your house…I think? I REPEAT: ALL IS NOT WELL.” It’s nice that you are thinking about the possibility of forgiveness for your husband (after you break them up somehow, of course), but my read on this situation is that there is no going back to any kind of happy equilibrium in these relationships.It is sick that my mother stole her daughter’s husband and I despise her for that.I can forgive my husband but I could never forgive her and I can’t tolerate the fact that they are together. The references to the lube and the “perfect body”…this can’t be real.During the past 8 months I have basically been living with another man in a neighbouring town to the one I live in.
I am drawn to men who are starkly different than my husband, who is an intellectual, moderate in terms of his vices and has a disdain for the type of men who spend every evening in a pub.Seeing that made me hate her more than you can believe.My husband would be disgusted with the way I have let myself go and would probably refuse to have sex with me but he’s happily screwing my mother now and enjoying her perfect body. I would love to put an end to their happy little relationship.I have started stalking them, sitting in the car down the street from our house, drinking vodka from the bottle, and watching them come out hand in hand to play tennis in the courts down the street or go out to dinner.I have sneaked in the house and gone up to what used to be our bedroom and found my mother has moved all her clothes into the wardrobe and taken what I had left out and I have even seen a tube of lube on the bedside table (my mother is post menopausal).Knowing I can’t go back to my life as it once was makes me miss it so much.