Soon after, we were having lunch together almost every day (we worked near each other at the time) and then we would hang out at night, watching movies and drinking together.
After he came back from Christmas break, I realized I had a problem — I was totally falling for him.
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But he had a girlfriend at the time, so I thought I was safe…except about three weeks later they broke up.
My question to you would be how do I know he is interested in me as more than friends?
I wouldn’t make a move again if I didn’t think he was interested.About an hour later, I was feeling better, and I wanted him to know I appreciated him, so I kissed him.He reciprocated, but also pulled back and said, “We shouldn’t be doing this.” I immediately conceded and lay back down on his shoulder. I asked him if it would be different if we weren’t roommates and he said yes, but that he loves the friendship we have and doesn’t want to ruin anything.I felt better, I felt comfortable, and I drifted off to sleep. Over the last couple days I’ve tried to show him that we can be normal and can remain friends, and for the most part things aren’t weird.Maybe it was a few minutes or an hour later, but I suddenly noticed his heart rate speeding up, his hands were all over my skin and in my hair, and when I leaned my head back to say something, he practically attacked me. We even cuddled on the couch watching a movie since the kiss.You are two young, single people who enjoy each other’s company and are attracted to each other and can’t decide whether the temptation to take things to the next level is worth the risk to your friendship and your roommate situation. You HAVE taken things to the next level, and you are fooling yourselves if you think you can just rewind now and pretend that your attraction to each other doesn’t exist and that the make-out session between you never happened and that the feelings you have aren’t really there. And neither one of you seems capable of keeping things at a strictly platonic level or there wouldn’t be cuddling on the couch and kisses in bed and so forth. You have four options: 1) Continue living with each other but avoid having a relationship; 2) Continue living together and start a relationship; 3) Stop living together and continue your friendship; 4) Stop living together and try dating.