’ For Britain’s 16 million singles, looking for love online is the norm.Studies have suggested that anything between 35 and 50 per cent of all couples in the UK, now meet via the web.
They conducted a survey of 433 online daters and found that the longer they waited to meet a match in person, the more likely they were to feel let down.
That trend that was significantly more obvious after the 17 to 23 day ‘tipping point’. That its lead researcher, Artemio Ramirez Jr., an Associate Professor, met his wife online in 2005.
Published in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication, it explains that there’s a ‘tipping point’ when it comes to online dating.
Put simply, how soon you meet will have a direct effect on your chemistry. You could be consigning yourself to a disappointing date.
But you also don’t want to put it off for too long. Well, there are things you can take away from it for next time. Should you avoid people who make grammatical errors in their profile? But answering these questions is a useful way to progress the process of online dating.
After all, if someone is keen to arrange a date with you, they won’t keep fighting for someone they don’t really know forever. Many match-making websites now have their own blogs, or guides advising you how and when to meet – among other tips – that you might find useful.
But in all likelihood, you’re probably going to have a drink with someone who just doesn’t do it for you. I recall a friend excitedly going off for a first date with a chap - ‘I just have a good feeling about this one, he’s an academic you know’ - only to discover he was a librarian who spent the entire meal talking about dust jackets.
The sooner you can assess whether those online sparks translate into real-life chemistry, the better.
Of course, just because you’re online dating, it doesn’t mean you should discount the chances of meeting someone offline, too.
Go to parties, meet new friends and force yourself to speak to strangers – romantic potential, or not.
Their first date was within that all-important window, of course (although he didn’t realise it at the time).