” with their slogan “Life is short, have an affair.” The model, who was “under the impression at the time that people purchasing these photos from the photographer would be doing so for their own personal use”, said “I am mortified that my image and likeness would be used as advertisement for two things I am so vehemently against: namely cheating and, to an even greater extent, body shaming.” But there’s this dating site, trying to profit by telling men married to fat women that they “deserve” an affair. I imagine that all of this makes it Christmas every day for the diet industry since it likely drives people back to them time and again, people who might otherwise look at their 5% success rate and say “Thanks but no thanks”.I wonder how far this idea that you must be thin to get a mate sets the Health at Every Size movement back?But there are some issues that happen with fat dating that I want to talk about.
If you feel that you get value out of the blog, can afford it, and want to support the author’s work and activism, please consider a paid subscription.The regular e-mail subscription (available at the top right hand side of this page) is still completely free. Were I born in another time or place, I would be the standard of beauty.So I think it’s important to realize that there is a nothing wrong with our bodies that a little culture shift can’t fix.can overcome the supposed sin of having a large body, a culture that suggests that you can tell by looking at me that I am lazy and weak-willed and unhealthy.
I also know that this standard is arbitrary since when my mom was in Mali, West Africa with the Peace Corps she received marriage proposals for me almost every day, and men promised her everything in the world to try to convince her that I should marry them.
Still here we are, with a dating pool inundated with the message that fat=bad.
Recently a dating company exclusively for married people looking to have an affair posted an ad with a picture of a fat woman that said “Does your wife scare you at night?
If it works for them that’s completely cool, but before I will date someone who feels that my body needs to be overlooked I will get a bunch of rescue Great Danes and grow old as the crazy dog lady, you know what I saying?
On the other hand I’m not willing to date someone who only loves me for my body.
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