My father was an early riser with no patience for late night carousing.When it was time, he’d turn off the music, turn up the lights and clap his hands.
What undermines marriage is marrying someone because your publicist told you to.
What undermines marriage is doing it for reality show ratings. What undermines marriage is denigrating other peoples’ marriages when you are supplementing your marriage with extramarital partners.
“It’s that time, folks,” he’d boom, in his rich, good-natured bass, “That’s all she wrote.” I was the lone kid at the parties, in my parents’ world in general.
By the time I reached kindergarten, all the little friends I’d had in our building had moved to the suburbs.
What undermines marriage is going into it while keeping your options open. My parents—a black man and a white, Jewish woman—got married in Chicago, Illinois in 1950, eight years before Richard and Mildred Loving wed.
At the time, interracial marriage was illegal in over thirty states.If you love and wish to marry someone of a different race, and I love and wish to marry someone of my same race, I do not believe that your marriage in any way undermines my marriage. As are children of same-sex parents, last I checked.If I love and wish to marry someone of a different gender and you love and wish to marry someone of your own gender, I do not believe that your marriage in any way undermines my marriage. One reason people used to give (and still give) for opposing interracial marriage was the children. What about that business about undermining the sanctity of marriage in general?My parents were married for forty-five years when my father died.In four and a half decades, their interracial marriage did not threaten the sanctity of anyone’s same-race marriage. I think it is time to acknowledge that marriage is a loving, committed relationship between two people who love and commit to one another.I remember afros, which abounded amongst our friends, regardless of whether they were black, like Dad or Jewish, like Mom (everyone was one or the other).