For example: Aggressor: “Your proposal is not even close to what I need from you.” Response: “Have you given clear thought to the implications of what you want to do? By putting the difficult person in the spotlight, you can help neutralize her or his undue influence over you. Aggression in Humans: What is Its Biological Foundation? Dominant people play closer to the "animalistic" side of us, not the cerebral side.
” Aggressor: “You’re so stupid.” Response: “If you treat me with disrespect I’m not going to talk with you anymore. A second technique you can use to interrupt negative communication is to change the topic. That doesn't mean they're stupid, in fact most are very intelligent, very driven and very good at being persuasive, getting their way and making others do their bidding.
On the surface, they may come across as domineering, confrontational, demanding, hostile, or even abusive.However, with astute approach and intelligent communication, you may turn aggression into cooperation, and condescension into respect. Keep Your Cool and Maintain Composure ― Luce Irigaray, philosopher One of the most common characteristics about aggressive, intimidating, and controlling individuals is that they like to deliberately upset you in order to push your buttons, pull your strings, and keep you off balance.You have the right to create your own happy and healthy life. Secondly, who do we all relate to the best, if not our own personalities?These Fundamental Human Rights represent your boundaries. When you are dealing with someone who has an aggressive, abundant, empowering personality, match it!The less reactive you are to provocations, the more you can use your better judgment to handle the challenge.
When you feel upset with or challenged by someone, before you say or do something you might later regret, take a deep breath and count slowly to ten.In many instances, by the time you reach ten, you would have regained composure, and figured out a better response to the issue, so that you can reduce, instead of exacerbate the problem.If you're still upset after counting to ten, take a time out if possible, and revisit the issue after you calm down.Below are seven keys to dealing with aggressive individuals, excerpted from my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, & Controlling People.” Not all of these ideas may apply to your particular situation. By doing so, they create an advantage over you, from which they can exploit your weakness.The first rule of thumb in the face of a difficult person is to keep your cool.— Paramhansa Yogananda Most of us encounter aggressive, intimidating, or controlling personalities at some points in our lives.