Over in London, it seemed my girls were having similar problems.‘I wish I’d burnt my cash and made a video of it on Instagram instead of waste my time on e Harmony,’ shared one friend.After the painstaking process of answering 120 questions, I finally began to get matched.
This was confirmed by a survey conducted by OKCupid, which suggested that on average, men aged 20–50 prefer to date a girl in her early 20s.Despite having limited the age to 41 on my own filter, the ‘Daddios’ – as old as 57 – were flooding into my inbox.Aware that e Harmony – the dating site known as most successful for marriages – has a 90-minute questionnaire, I started here.At .99 for a one-month trial, I seriously hoped this was worth it.And too many had clearly not left the house for a while.
It began to appear that choosing the ‘spirituality is important’ option was a limitation. And why wouldn’t e Harmony let me search through the men registered for myself?
I procrastinated starting out on my assignment for a week as I battled with the ego and the fear of looking desperate.
I’d had serious relationships in the past, and the main feedback my pastors had given me was not that I wasn’t ready for marriage, nor wouldn’t make a great wife, but that I simply didn’t know what I wanted.
I might ask her for the number of her colourist though.
She has nice pink hair’, I reply.team, I agreed to experiment in trying to find love in the cyber world, with all its personality filters: lawn game champion, marathoner, political junkie, health nut, zombie survivalist, tree-hugger, vegan, die-hard carnivore, non-believer in cologne (or deodorant), and finally, but importantly for me, just how much are you a Christian – really?
By the fourth step in the process, I was halfway through the first month of my subscription. This issue is not applicable purely to online Christian dating, of course, but these dating sites, I’m learning, are often where men with this sort of outlook end up.